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Self-harm education Saturday:

shelbys-advice-blog:

Educating others about self harm, one post at a time.

Self-harm includes anything you do to intentionally injure yourself. Some of the more common ways include:

  • cutting or severely scratching your skin
  • burning or scalding yourself
  • hitting yourself or banging your head
  • punching things or throwing your body against walls and hard objects
  • sticking objects into your skin
  • intentionally preventing wounds from healing
  • swallowing poisonous substances or inappropriate objects

Self harm recovery projects:

The Butterfly Project:

  1. when you feel like you want to cut, take a marker or pen and draw a butterfly on wherever the self-harm occurs.
  2. name the butterfly after a loved one, or someone that really wants you to get better.
  3. NO scrubbing the butterfly off.
  4. if you cut before the butterfly is gone, it dies. if you don’t cut, it lives.
  5. if you have more than one, cutting kills them all.
  6. another person may draw them on you. these butterflies are extra special. take good care of them.
  7. even if you don’t cut, feel free to draw a butterfly anyways, to show your support. if you do this, name it after someone you know that is suffering right now, and tell them. it could help.

The Paper Chain Project:

  1. For every day you go without self harming or purging, add a colorful link to the paper chain
  2. If you relapse, just add a white link to to the chain and carry on the chain without any disruption
  3. Over time the paper chain will grow in length and you can see your progress, and see that even if you do relapse, the are still days you go without hurting yourself. The colorful links.
  4. Over time and through your recovery watch the amount of colored links begin to increase, and the amount of white links begin to decrease.
  5. If you feel like hurting yourself, look at the paper chain and realize just how far you’ve made it, and realise that if you’ve resisted before you can do it again

Journaling:

  1. DELAY: delay giving in to the urge for a set amount of time. Write down this amount of time and set a timer.
  2. DISTRACT: do an activity that will occupy your thoughts and use your physical energy. Write a list of things you could do.
  3. DECIDE: after the set time period, decide how you’re going to respond to the urge. Write down: advantages, disadvantages, reasons you want to stop, life goals.

You can also try distracting your mind. Do something where you are able to focus you mind on and be physical at the same time whenever you feel the urge to cut coming on.

For example:

  • Exercise: yoga, Pilates  zumba, dance, jogging, and if you have a gym membership go there.
  • Take a leisurely stroll through a park or even your neighborhood.
  • If you have a pet, try to teach them a trick.
  • Watch a crappy movie marathon, or have a marathon of your favorite show.
  • Take a nice relaxing bubble bath
  • read a book
  • listen to loud music and sing along to it and dance around if you have to
  • go out with friends, or call up your boyfriend and see if you can spend some time together (nothing special just hang out).
  • play video games
  • try tetris, a crossword puzzle, mind games

Coping skills for any addiction, self harm included:

Need to express pain and intense emotions

  • Paint, draw, or scribble on a big piece of paper with red ink or paint
  • Express your feelings in a journal
  • Compose a poem or song to say what you feel
  • Write down any negative feelings and then rip the paper up
  • Listen to music that expresses what you’re feeling

If you need to calm and soothe yourself

  • Take a bath or hot shower
  • Pet or cuddle with a dog or cat
  • Wrap yourself in a warm blanket
  • Massage your neck, hands, and feet
  • Listen to calming music
  • Color in a coloring book
  • Plant flowers

If you feel disconnected and numb

  • Call a friend (you don’t have to talk about self-harm)
  • Take a cold shower
  • Hold an ice cube in the crook of your arm or leg
  • Chew something with a very strong taste, like chili peppers, peppermint, or a grapefruit peel.
  • Go online to a self-help website, chat room, or message board

If you need to release tension or vent anger

  • Exercise vigorously—run, dance, jump rope, or hit a punching bag
  • Punch a cushion or mattress or scream into your pillow
  • Squeeze a stress ball or squish Play-Doh or clay
  • Rip something up (sheets of paper, a magazine)
  • Make some noise (play an instrument, bang on pots and pans)

Substitutes for the cutting sensation

  • Use a red felt tip pen to mark where you might usually cut
  • Rub ice across your skin where you might usually cut
  • Put rubber bands on wrists, arms, or legs and snap them instead of cutting or hitting
  • Cut an apple with your blades, scissors, knife, etc

First Aid:

For cuts:

  1. Apply direct pressure to the area to stop the bleeding. If the cuts are on a limb, hold it above your heart.
  2. If the cut is wide or deep, hold the sides of the injury together
  3. Clean the area with warm water and soap
  4. Apply an antibiotic ointment (such as Neosporin)
  5. Apply a sterile bandage or wrap over the area

For burns:

  1. Cool the area with low pressure cool running water or cool cloths for several minutes. Do not use ice, oil, or butter. Burned areas are weak and may become frostbitten easily. Oil or butter will trap the heat in.
  2. Remove all jewelry and tight fitting clothing as soon as possible - the swelling may make it hard to remove later. If clothing is stuck to your burn, do not try to pull it off.
  3. If you wish, treat with a topical water soluble burn cream to reduce pain. After 2-3 days, you can use aloe.
  4. Do not pop blisters
  5. Wear loose fitting clothing while healing

Call 911:

  • If a cut is spurting blood in time to your heart beat, you have hit an artery. Call 911 and do not remove pressure from the area.
  • If the cut is deep or over a joint
  • If you have lost sensation in the area of injury
  • If you continue to bleed heavily after taking the above steps
  • If you can see yellow fatty tissue or underlying muscle (will look like a slab of meat)
  • If it is hard to hold the sides of the cut together
  • If something is stuck in your wound/burn (in the case of something being in your cut, hold the sides together around the object and do not attempt to remove it)
  • You were burned using a chemical

How to respond when someone asks you about your self harm scars..

  • “I battle with sharks in my spare time”
  • “I was attacked by an evil cheese grater”
  • “IT’S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS WHO THE HELL ASKS WHY SOMEONE HAS A LOAD OF SCARS IT’S OBVIOUSLY GOING TO BE A TOUCHY SUBJECT YOU MORON”
  • “I’m slowly transforming into a zebra”

Helpful Links:

Here is a master post on coping with urges to self harm:

More self harm help/recovery links

tagged: +tw  +reference 
Anonymous asked: For the rocky horror picture show: I'm Gonna Give You Some Terrible Thrills by qxtsa, Rocky Horror Frerard Show by ChemicalGhost and finally I'm Gonna Give You Some Terrible Thrills by the_art_of_suicide. They're all on AO3 :)

frerardhub:

thanks, here are the links for anyone that wants to read:

I’m Gonna Give You Some Terrible Thrills by qxtsa (NC-17)

Rocky Horror Frerard Show by ChemicalGhost (NC-17) 

I’m Gonna Give You Some Terrible Thrills by The_Art_of_Suicide ®

tagged: +these could b cool  +reference 
lukesnewberry: “ i’ve tried to compile some of these longer masterposts into just the really useful stuff, and i’ve added a lot more that isn’t already circulating ~ hope you enjoy uwu writing get to know your character fill in sheet writing board -...

lukesnewberry:

i’ve tried to compile some of these longer masterposts into just the really useful stuff, and i’ve added a lot more that isn’t already circulating ~ hope you enjoy uwu

writing

get to know your character fill in sheet
writing board - plan family trees, timelines etc with pictures and videos
writing specific character types
the psychology of colour
creative writing prompts
26 stages of death
writing smut
how to write a kiss
7 steps to the perfect story
words that don’t exist in english
relationship words that can’t translate into english
unisex names
wheel of emotions
tip of my tongue - word finder
fictional people and place names generator
surnames masterpost
fantasy world map generator
wonderful writing resources masterlist
the ULTIMATE writing masterpost
mary sue litmus test

school use

create smart powerpoints in a different format
how to structure an essay
how to take an effective study break
maths help
self control - ban yourself from certain sites while studying
check through writing, grammar and spelling editor 
healthy study snacks
googling effectively 
microsoft world alternative
solves any maths equation
heaps of studying playlists
look like you’re typing an essay
free fonts
loads of fonts
language sites!
more uncommon language sites - including afrikaans, gaelic and greek
20 most common grammatical errors

books

free books masterpost
what book should i read?
what should i read next #2?
read any book

tv shows

pushing daisies
game of thrones
supernatural
sherlock
doctor who
hannibal
american horror story s1-3
whose line is it anyway - !!!!!!
my mad fat diary

films

foreign films
studio ghibli films
lesbian films
disney channel films
chick flicks
horror films
disney/pixar films
broadway musicals

food/drink recipes

pies
icing colour reference
25+ hot chocolate recipes
chocolate cake
lavender lemonade
vegan recipes
so many cookie recipes
harry potter food
mug recipes
make cookies that look like allsorts sweets
caramel apple nachos
triple chocolate mousse cake
party appetizers 
brownie tart
36 homemade popsicle/ice lolly recipes
chocolate mousse in a chocolate cup
pinata cookies
dip dyed marshmallows
more microwave mug recipes

music

how to make the perfect mix
arctic monkeys b-side tracks
what music should i listen to next?
find the song you can’t remember the name of
make a mix tape
indie radio station
free piano sheet music

feel-good/recovery

silky legs
avacado face mask - for acne prone skin
strawberry face mask - for acne prone skin
tea for a sore throat
tone your stomach, thighs and butt
get fit - cardio, legs, butt, abs, arms and yoga positions
10 best yoga positions
10 things to do when you’re feeling shitty
good advice from ser loras
a confidence boost from the tenth doctor
comfort box
self harm recovery masterpost
hotlines masterlist - inc. domestic/alcohol/drug abuse, suicide + lgbt 
watch an actually funny cat video
what to do when you feel like self harming
click to donate to people who need it
how to help a friend feeling suicidal 
worried a friend is self harming?
what to do when your friend is having a panic attack

makeup + hair

easy eyeliner tutorial
spoon eye makeup
what makeup suits you?
makeup tricks
eyeliner variations with tutorials
amazing eyeliner ref 
eyeliner ref chart #2
eyeliner ref chart #3
diy newspaper nails
zoella’s everyday makeup routine

bun tutorials
braid tutorials
dutch braid crown
game of thrones hairstyles
pin curls
how to fishtail

general 

read stories about nice people
how to survive college/university
packing for college/university
college/uni references masterpost
what to know when you’re getting a new apartment
getting rid of bobbles/pills on clothes
how to tie a bow tie
hiv morning after pill
order free condoms 
deleting yourself off the internet
why girl-on-girl hate is wrong and you should celebrate your girl power
a complete guide to kissing
journaling 101
journal inspiration and guide
how to fall asleep fast
building a memory palace - the method of loci
find the source of an image
how to afford to travel
blanket forts
download x-kit
accidentally closed your tab?
play cards against humanity
make an adventure time princess
synaptop - webcam with interactive features
constellation chart

clothes/cool stuff 

dip dye shoes tutorial
solar system jewellery
book clutch
how to customize your denim jacket
create your own temporary tattoo
how to dip dye your hair at home
easy ukelele chords
diy globe garland
super cute constellation notebooks
buy vintage scrabble letter rings

 

tagged: +this is hella  +reference 
how to track anonymous asks.

sshubashushu:

So you have your ask.

STEP ONE:
Highlight the word “block”

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STEP TWO:
Right click the word block.
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STEP THREE:
Click “View Selection Source”
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STEP FOUR:
Something like this should pop up:
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Highlight the “IP” (the blacked out part).
STEP FIVE:
Copy the IP address and paste it to this website:
http://whatismyipaddress.com/ip-lookup
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Paste the IP address into there, press enter or “Lookup IP Address” and all the information should come up. 
tagged: +huh  +reference 
A Tasting Menu of Female Representation:

cl-hilbert:

The Bechdel:

two or more women talking to each other about something other than a man

The Mako Mori:

at least one female character with her own narrative arc that is not about supporting a man’s story

The Sexy Lamp:

a female character that cannot be removed from the plot and replaced with a sexy lamp without destroying the story.

Chef’s Specials:

The Anti-Freeze:

no woman assaulted, injured or killed to further the story of another character.

The “Strength is Relative”:

complex women defined by solid characterization rather than a handful of underdeveloped masculine-coded stereotypes.

tagged: +reference  +feminism 

weirdatmidnight:

grantaire-put-that-bottle-down:

hey there LGBTQ kids who are also Christian/Jewish! If you feel like you’re disobeying God, questioning your faith, or feel wrong and dirty for loving who you love, there’s this fantastic site I found today called hoperemains that accurately and thoroughly combs through scripture and its (many) mistranslations, validates your orientation, and basically let’s you know that you’re not pissing off God. It’s insanely thorough and after reading through every page on the entire site it’s super helpful. Go check it out

concerning some of the stuff I mentioned last stream or so

tagged: +actually rly interesting  +reference 

demongirlblaze:

I made this for my informative speech in school~

Is there any incorrect or iffy information?? If so please send me an ask to let me know!!

EDIT 4: Most updated version as of May 6th!!!

tagged: +i'm actually gonna print this out and give it out to kids in my class  +reference